Delia was in an abusive relationship for seven years. When she finally left her partner, she started dating someone new, someone who seemed to be a very nice guy. Two years into their relationship, things were going well.
In an unrelated incident, Delia’s cousin – who had moved into Delia’s house – was shot and severely injured outside their home. With her cousin in the hospital, and afraid to live alone, Delia allowed her partner and his friend to move in. Very shortly after, Delia’s partner started using controlling behaviors, gaslighting her, embarrassing her in front of others, insisting to know where she was at all times, insulting her intelligence, and eventually physically abusing her.
Delia blamed herself for getting into another abusive relationship. Having been through this cycle before and disheartened by what she perceived as her own failings, Delia resigned herself to the relationship. Months later, Delia was at the Denver courthouse for the trial of her cousin’s shooter, when she saw a flyer for the Rose Andom Center. That same day, Delia called and made and appointment to speak with one of our Resource Advocates.
Although Delia is still living with her abusive partner, she is showing incredible courage as she continues to access our services, meet with her advocate, and work towards goals she has set for herself. As Delia continues on the path to understand and process her situation, she has been asking for more resources. Upon the recommendation of her advocate, she recently checked out the book Why Does He Do That from the Denver Public Library. Delia shared that the book has really resonated with her and helped her understand the complicated dynamics of her relationship. Delia knows now it’s not her fault for staying, that many survivors stay for incredibly valid reasons. Delia’s advocate is committed to working with Delia for as long as it takes for her to find safety and stability specific to her situation.
At the Rose Andom Center, we honor the courage of survivors like Delia by meeting them where they are at and celebrating every step they take towards living a better life for themselves.
If you know someone who is a victim of domestic violence, the Rose Andom Center can help.
Call us, Monday – Friday 8AM – 5PM to access resources or book an appointment at 720.337.4400.
For 24-hour crisis services, call Colorado Crisis Services at 844.493.8255 or text TALK to 38255.
For 24-hour domestic violence support, call The Hotline at 1.800.787.7233 or text START to 88788.